“Do these pants make my butt look big?” “Is this hair color flattering?” Pick a spouse and friends who will say in love… “Yes, I’m afraid those pants do make your butt look big.” Or “Well, I prefer you as a brunette instead of a blonde, it makes you look younger, but you are beautiful no matter what hair color you choose.”
Honesty and truth spoken in love are paramount to any worthwhile relationship on this earth, and key to a relationship with God.
A young lady approached me who was living with a bit of stress, anxiety and doubt about her current situation. I lead her to the word. I challenged her to read a chapter every day. The next time I saw her, she seemed happier and less stressed. She had actually taken my challenge and upped me one and didn’t just read a chapter, but read two entire books in the week that had passed. She was putting the truth in her heart and mind. She was understanding the character of God that comes from reading the bible. She was seeking truth, finding it, and the truth? Sets us free. Not just once when we decide to take up our cross and follow Jesus. It sets us free every day, every time we have a question that we need help answering.
“All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness..” – 2 Timothy 3:16
I had a friend who was dealing with an onset of anxiety and stress. Over coffee it was time for me to be honest about what was most likely causing their anxiety and stress… “You are living in sin and God doesn’t bless sin.” This was the equivalent of “Yes, that makes your butt look big, or I don’t really care for that hair color on you.” You say it with a bit of fear and trepidation because you don’t want to alienate someone you are trying to help. Someone you consider a dear friend that you want to see gain all the happiness and freedom they deserve. You have a choice to make, do you love them enough to be honest, even when it hurts. Do you have enough faith to take the God you worship at His word. Because walking in love, means walking in truth.
“Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth to his neighbor: for we are members one of another.” – Ephesians 4:25
One of the hardest things for Christians to do seems to be to speak the truth in love. Especially when it’s not popular or there’s fear you can be misunderstood and labeled intolerant or a hater.
How do we speak the truth in love? Be humble, be kind, love the person, not the sin, and point them to God’s word. Not your opinion, not your thoughts, not your feelings, but what God’s word says. His word is the light unto our path. When someone comes to me and asks “What do you think about (Insert any controversial subject here) I say “Let’s open the bible and see what God says about it.” Where God speaks, I listen. Where He’s silent, I’m silent. And then, I encourage them to pray and to seek God. He hears. He speaks to our heart. He closes doors no man can open and opens doors no man can shut. He is the answer and He has the answers to whatever troubles your heart.
“You will seek me and find me when you seek me with ALL your heart.” – Jeremiah 29:13